Death and life are in the power of the tongue

These verses spoke to me today.  

Proverbs 18: 21

"Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit." 

James 3:4-5

"Behold, the ships also, though they are so great and are driven by strong winds, are still directed by a very small rudder, where the inclination of the pilot desires. So also the tongue is a small part of the body, and yet it boasts of great things." 

This morning, one of my students' mum approached me.  She got another tuition / therapy center for her 4- year old Autistic daughter.  This is not the first time she came to me asking my opinion about those centers.  Hmm... I did not really know much about her as she is still quite new with us.  She was not quite open to us as well.  I just noticed that she will be very disappointed if her daughter cannot perform well that day.  She will be frustrated and her daughter will be frustrated too as she is forced to do things that she dislikes and they have communication breakdown.  Hmm... I tried my best to help on the surface as I did not really know her "real" problem.  

Today, I got a chance to find out from her.  She even broke down as I was digging the root that causes all these emotional thingy.  I quite pity her as she doesn't have the support from her husband.  Her husband is still in denial stage.  He can't accept that he has a special child.  He pushed all the responsibilities to the wife saying that her she is useless because she delivered a child like this.  He doesn't care about anything at home even the furnitures at home.  If anything spoils, he will not help to repair, he said this is her responsibility and his responsibility is just to be the bread winner.  He has been hurting her so much when he is not giving any support.  Sigh... So sad!  

The mother has insomnia.  Her husband invited a few Feng Shui masters to the house and they told her that there are spirits.  This added on her burdens.  She felt very unpeaceful when she was alone at home.  The Feng Shui master wanted them to shift the furniture around but the husband pushed the job to her.  Sigh... How can a lady push the sofa set around all by herself? How can she shift the bed around by herself?  She ignored but the husband kept nagging about it.  

I also noticed that these mothers do not feel proud of their sons or daughters.  Whatever other people say about their children's problem.  They agree to it and get depressed.  They just do not know how to enjoy their kids by telling them back how they have improved.  

It's not enough to refrain from speaking negative things. You must proactively say positive and encouraging things about yourself and your family. As you speak words of blessing over your life, you will find that they become a self-fulfilling prophecy. You can change your world by changing your words.

I agree to this so much.  Yeah, I must learn to think positively about myself so that I will not be depressed and make myself fail to contribute more.  I think not only that, as we speak to others, we must also try to be less negative.  So that others will not be discouraged but have the courage to move on to the higher ground.  

Make sure that the fruit your tongue produces is sweet. Declare that you are blessed and that whatever you do will succeed. Begin to speak those words of faith and victory over your life and over your loved ones, and you will reap a harvest that will bless your family for generations.