Speak My Love Language

Jenn's post attracted me. This is maybe the 3rd time I take this quiz. The result is still the same. Yeah, I love spending time with people that I love, usually one on one.

If we understand each other's love language then there will be less problem. Spending time alone with people that I love is very important to me. Even if we are not talking, I still feel good. I'm not only talking about B. G. R. But also friendship. I believe true friends do not need many words but there is still quiet understanding between us. Even if we do not talk when we are together, we won't feel awkward. Have you experienced this?

I feel loved when...

The Five Love Languages

My Primary Love Language is Quality Time

My Detailed Results:
Quality Time:	12
Physical Touch:	8
Acts of Service:	4
Words of Affirmation:	4
Receiving Gifts:	2

About this quiz

Unhappiness in relationships is often due to the fact that we speak different love languages. It can be helpful to know what language you speak and what language those around you speak.

Tag 3 people so they can find out what their love language is.

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Created to Solve Problem

This is a tree along the road to Wan Sian's ex- college- KIY (K. Ibrahim Yaakob). It attracted me because of it's bended trunk. According to my own analysis, it grew like that because the other trees on the higher ground are blocking it from getting sufficient sunlight. Thus, it has no choice but to bend itself to get what it needs to live.

As I was watching other trees around, I noticed that the way every tree grows are different. None of them are exactly the same. They are just like us, humans! Each and very one of them are special in terms of colours, sizes, shapes and the way they grow. If each tree represents each of us, then the way they grow shows our personalities. Look at the tree above, it's such a huge and tall one. It grows towards the sky as it does not have any other things blocking it from getting what it needs in life.

The tree which bended it's trunk to get what it needs to live alerted me that we are created to solve problems. We need to use different methods and approaches to solve a problem, even if it is the same old problem. I know that a tree life is not as complicated as our life but don't forget, God created us with intelligence and wisdom. Thus, we are to think out of the box instead of using the same method and approach to the same issue (or different issues). Our environment changes, people around us change, and the things around us also change. So we need to change too. If we don't change, we will have a lot struggles living in this complicated world.

Do you want to grow towards the sky no matter what or would you prefer to bend your trunk slightly to sustain your life? Are you rigid or flexible? Are you able to change but not losing your identity?

I'm grateful!

This whole week is a very happening week for me. The stay in UKM, Bangi really reminded me of the days I went through in CECE college and USM, Penang. Those were the days that I enjoyed most with my course mates. I'm missing those days and hope that I will have it once more. Study life is always good and simple.

I met a lot of my sister's friends. They are a good bunch and I enjoyed the fellowship we had. One of her friends asked for my opinions on the issue of relationships. She is studying the same course as her partner. They are having an underground relationship as the guy refused to date her openly. I forgot the reason that he put forth. She asked me whether when a guy falls for a girl will usually treats the girl very good. In my opinion, YES! Then she asked if the treatment will change if the guy and the gal start dating. In my opinion, I think there will be some changes but not the love that he has for her.

After that, she started telling me about her stories. This guy had been caring for her very much for almost a year. Thus, they started dating each other few months ago. However, things changed. The guy stopped caring for her and avoided her. When they meet in class, chatting with their course mates, that guy took her as a stranger. She couldn't understand why. Not only that, he kept comparing her with his ex- girl friend and kept saying that she is dumb. They have not been talking for few months until now. That girl gave up the relationship but did not tell him. Lately, he talked to her on messenger and confused her once more. She wondered if she really loved him or he had become a routine to her.

I really couldn't help her much. I just asked her to think properly whether to continue or stop and told her that if they manage to get married she cannot blame anyone because she makes that choice. Yeah, of course, they can divorce after that but I strongly disagree with the idea. No one would like to divorce I bet. Hmm... I gave her examples that I experienced with the parents of my students. I told her the struggles when she does not have support from the husband no matter what and asked her if she can take it when he keeps comparing and doesn't know how to appreciate her. I hope that she will make the right decision.

After chatting with her, I reflected on my relationship. I thank God that he had never scolded me stupid. The only time was he scolded me out of anger. The only problem we have is quality time. Time was the problem and is still the problem though. But I made the choice so I can't blame him. Just hope that we will have more time to be together. I once swore that I will not want a fat guy and will not want a doctor. But God is so funny. Many times, I wanted to quit this relationship but He just won't allow. God insisted that he is the one that I need, at least until now, He still thinks that he is the one I need. Oh well, many would think that I wanted a handsome guy but no. I just did not want a fat guy and a doctor.

I concluded and testified that God will always give what you need instead of what you want. Thus, those who are still seeking for what you want, forget about it and wait for the best thing that God has prepared for you.

I cannot imagine myself being compared with other people. I have been doing this by myself. If my life partner does this too, then I will surely think that even a dog is better than me. I would rather die. How sad! I also cannot stand if my partner often digs the old issues during present argument. Frankly, I'm grateful for what I have now. Many things had happened, good and bad and from bad to worse, those things brought us this far. Many sorries were said, many thanks were said, many forgiveness applied and many tears was shed. These are the spices that spiced us up. Hmm... I really hope that we can keep forgiving each other.

If some one really loves you, he/ she would give you the best and wants you to be happy all the time no matter how sad or hurt he/ she is on the other side of the world. Am I being too idealistic? I guess.